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Wealthy Gay Men and Millennial Mayhem

July 25, 2018

wealthy gay menI recently just watched “Hello My Name is Doris” with Sally Field and then also I watched a short and informative video by author Simon Sinek, who doesn’t seem like one of those wealthy gay men. If you are a millennial and care about how you are being perceived by the rest of the world, WATCH THIS. Maybe you are of another generation being perceived as one. Regardless, this isn’t about “not caring what people think,” this is about people noticing behaviors than are conducive to certain generational behavioral patterns. Trust me, this stuff is gold. Any wealthy gay men out there couldn’t afford the amount of priceless information this video obtains.

This article also came about when someone flippantly canceled a meeting just 30 minutes before they were supposed to meet and this person was also a millennial. If I think about the amount of last minute cancellations I have in general, most of them are around my generation. One of those wealthy gay men, might be so forgiving and use his power and money as a lure of incentive. I remember another time when I met someone and after making him two home-cooked meals for him and his roommates, on my own dollar and time, I still found him “active” on a technological dating avenue. What does this say about our generation? We are consistently on the look out for something better, even when that “better” might be right in front of us. And sometimes my friend, you might have just ruined your chances on something that could have been a really good thing. Simon Sinek speaks of the “I’m special” mentality and it sometimes makes us only be aware of our own feelings and not as considerate for others’. He writes, “the ultimate value of personal growth work is not to feel better about ourselves but to contribute to how those around us feel about themselves.” Sometimes it sucks being the “nice guy,” no matter if you are one of those wealthy gay men or not.

I remember being in a situation with three younger girls at least 7 to 8 years younger than I and it seems that most of them were not interested in Facebook as much as my current “crowd.” I really enjoyed talking to all of them and was really impressed by their mindset and in being so poised and eloquent. According to many studies I ran into, Facebook is on the decline within the younger generation – like a whopping loss of 2 million users in the 24 and under age demographic. Yes, I do realize Facebook has a grandiose amount of active users in general – 2 billion, in fact. However, there seems to be many theories on migration to Snapchat and Instagram instead. It made me realize that the trend is to be more attracted to surface and catchy imagery rather than actual factual information. I immediately thought of an Instagram influencer that went ballistic and basically started to edit her captions to reflect “NOT REAL LIFE” about the reality of her Instagram photos and the self-esteem issues she hid behind. One of those wealthy gay men might appear lavish and happy from their surface, but could feel completely empty in their interior.

As we go through so many versions of what one may call “fake news,” I guess we start to be more forgiving of imagery rather than some type of vernacular, which we can label as “too much for us to read.” We as society are becoming less and less patient and more forgiving it seems. We are choosing to make decisions based on a feeling of an image and less on the actuality behind how the image is portrayed to us. Given our political climate, I think a lot of people, maybe even wealthy gay men, don’t ask questions and that’s when we start biting ourselves in the rear, because we realized we should have done research before we construct an opinion on something.

What this made me realize was this behavioral pattern also leaks into date practice, no matter what age. I mean, we’re surrounded by the psychology of “click bait” from every technological avenue we use on a daily basis. We get excited about a surface connection and then it becomes like “work” to us. Sorry, meaningful and long-lasting relationships will always require some type of “work.” Wealthy gay men can’t spend any amount of money on having that work done for them. And yes, I do realize we sometimes run into a Stage 5 Clinger, but then again how many people have ghosted us before someone has even tried to reciprocate the connection after you’ve initiated the first date? You can control how you date, but then again it is not your job to train someone to be a good partner. Good partners find good partners, naturally. It’s that “we just clicked” mentality we often hear from a successful relationship we’ve either known or experienced ourselves.

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