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Gay Dating Los Angeles and The Power of “No”

April 10, 2017

gay dating los angelesThese past few months have been some of the most stressful of my life. I mean, gay dating Los Angeles can be stressful to most! Do you ever feel cornered by your own trials and tribulations of life and all you can do is take the blows and wish for it to be over? Owning my own business in regard to my book endeavors and all of its facets, has been so rewarding, but with that bestows so much emotional, timely, and monetary sacrifice. You grasp onto the hope that you took a leap that allows you to step onto a bridge rather than the ground, to fall to your impending doom. I’ve always tried to keep the mantra of a “yes” creating a trajectory of some kind, and a “no” being something that stems from growth or improvement. This is a mentality to have when doing gay dating Los Angeles.

I was trying to set up an event in NYC for an upcoming book tour stop, while juggling gay dating Los Angeles with my current clients. After hours of deliberation across multiple weeks with the venue and a cumbersome effort in corralling an interest of multiple collaborators, I was elated to have the opportunity to share my story from one coast to the other. After numerous reminder e-mails, I barely got any responsible reciprocation back. Mind you, people are busy, and I was aware that there would be a little more of a push from me to move things along in the beginning. However, the only way this would succeed would be that everyone promises to help promote, market, and add to the content of the event itself. I was having pragmatic doubts, undoubtedly. At the end of the day, I had to call it and pull the plug. I think people need to have this realistic few when gay dating Los Angeles. This taught me an important lesson – if something is important to you, you will do it. If something is offering you little reward or incentive, you shouldn’t do it. Period.

I wonder how many of us go into this same model when it comes to relationships? Gay dating Los Angeles can fall into this model very quickly. I love hearing the same story of an older gentleman I see from time to time at events, complaining about his same much younger love interest, in which has proven to be less mature than the other would denounce. He’s telling me that he’s basically horrible, but still continues to court him, and for numerous months after their initial “break-up”? It sounds like he is supporting a behavior that is actually hurting him in the long run. Things won’t change unless you let go, and then the other party or parties will hopefully realize the value of your time. If they don’t realize that value, they will eventually fall through the cracks, in the best way. Think of this as your own natural filter. As a reminder, the definition of an addict is doing the same exact thing over and over again, and expecting a different outcome. Don’t be that guy in gay dating Los Angeles. Pretty soon, one has to remove himself from the blinding effort of his own detriment, and cut those things that are hindering his true potential. This potential can even be for him to clear some space in his mind, so he can put forth energy than will be responsibly reciprocated, and in turn, deem his efforts as valuable. How many of us are patient for weeks on the guy that waits a large amount hours or even days to respond to a simple, “How’s your morning going?” Fellas, don’t waste your time on those men. I don’t care how pretty he is, or how great he sounds on paper. He’s a bad gay dating Los Angeles. He obviously does not value building a relationship as you do and it isn’t your job to be patient with him or for him to be able to “catch up.” (another) Period.

Patience is a defined virtue I have learned from my Southern roots. Sometimes one can lose that when gay dating Los Angeles. I recall my father coming out here for the first time to visit me in Los Angeles, waiting behind a service counter as the other person’s back was to him for minutes. The service person said, “We need more people like you out here,” when my dad stood there patiently waiting to be helped. He said, “Where I come from, we are patient,” or something quite endearing to that extent. I think giving the benefit of the doubt is always the polite thing to do; okay, but watch that addictive behavior, because it works on the receiving end, just as much as it works on the progressive end. (third, and last) Period.

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